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November 10, 2008

I’m just saying – be careful what you ask for!

My husband used to work from home – all the time. And there were some super nice things about that. Sometimes we would sneak out for lunch or take a walk or just sit in the kitchen and talk. But – you know what is coming next – he was here ALL the time. And, frankly he wasn’t that busy at work. So, my time was his time. Sometimes I felt like I had two shadows. And I did not get a lot done.

He started working from home about the same time our house was being renovated and our youngest child went to kindergarten – yep all three kids out of the house all day for the first time EVER. Welcome home hubby. This was also a really busy time for my card business – A Reason To Write.

Free time – what free time? The free time I had been so looking forward to was first filled with the sounds of hammers and then by the sound of his keyboard. Because, even though we fixed up a nice office for him in the basement, he preferred to plop down at the eat-up area in our kitchen. You got it – smack down in the middle of all the activity – and when the kids weren’t home – my inactivity.

So, I actually said to him – you know, this isn’t working out that great for you to be home all the time – maybe you could find a job that took you out of the house a couple days a week. I didn’t want to completely get rid of him but a little down time was sounding pretty good. So he comes home and announces he has an opportunity to work in India. And when his answer to “is that a new street in our neighborhood?” was “no”, I took a long, slow, deep breath.

I should have clarified, by saying to get out of the house a couple days a week, I did not mean India. I meant around the corner, down the street, you know – commuting distance. So much for the best laid plans of mice and wives. That did not work out the way I planned. So now I have decided that parameters are the way to go. When you ask for something – be very specific!

7 Comments leave one →
  1. Tottsmom permalink
    January 31, 2009 11:45 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog for about a week now and today decided to start reading some of the archives. I stumbled on this one and had to hold in the laughter as my, usually gone but now at home 24/7, hubby is sitting at the breakfast table with his computer and all of his paperwork, lol and I am in “his office”. I too long for the days that his is not around ALL the time, and India might be in our future too. So I must agree, be careful what you pray for as God does have a sense of humor. (I hope we do get to India, but we shall have to wait and see.)

  2. November 17, 2008 8:13 am

    poupee97 – thanks for following my journey – it will be nice to have you along – any tips you care to share would be marvelous!

  3. poupee97 permalink
    November 17, 2008 3:13 am

    Delhi, huh? Well… that’s not all good either… 🙂 But December is a good time to be in Delhi, just wait till May. Except for the flight delays due to fog, December’s a good time for that. 🙂 Don’t mean to scare you or anything. If you like old ruined buildings (not old, I mean, really ancient stuff), you’ll find lots to see in Delhi. Otherwise, just the markets will keep you busy. I think I’m going to be following your journey for a while. I enjoy your writing.

  4. November 13, 2008 6:04 pm

    We’ll be in Delhi – thanks for reading!

  5. poupee97 permalink
    November 12, 2008 5:50 am

    India’s not all bad… where in India?

    BTW, just found your blog today. Nice.

  6. michael clendenin permalink
    November 10, 2008 11:48 pm

    I’m not the most religious person around — ask my wife. But I do believe things happen for a reason. There is something greater at work. You watch and see.



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